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Mother has an Angle
When Sara was a child in kindergarten, about a week before Mother's Day her teacher instructed her class to draw pictures of their mothers. The teacher then posted the pictures on the classroom bulletin board. The day before Mothers’ Day the students were asked to each take their picture off the bulletin board and bring it home as a gift their mother. When Sara reached the bulletin board, she found, to her chagrin, that someone else had taken the picture she had drawn. When an inquiry proved unable to find the lost picture, June had the unpleasant duty to go home and tell her mother that her picture had been taken by someone else. Sara was terrified to tell her mother the news, but she forced herself to make the report. Instead of the scolding Sara expected, her mother smiled and told her, “That must have been a beautiful picture if someone else wanted it so much to take it. Maybe you will grow up to be a great artist!” In that moment June felt utterly relieved, as well as empowered. There are multiple ways to look at any event or situation. At one extreme is the perspective of judgment, fear, and guilt. At the other extreme is trust, forgiveness, and love. Each day ― like today ― you and I have many opportunities to choose between condemnation and relief. You can make someone’s day ― especially your own ― by finding interpretations and angles that soothe.
Grace Would Serve You Tea
While visiting Japan I had a breakfast meeting with my Japanese sponsor at a resort hotel. Sitting in a corner of the dining room, our meeting went on beyond the time breakfast was served, and the staff was cleaning the dining room tables. I felt bad about occupying a table during the cleaning period, but no one said anything, so my sponsor and I continued. Our meeting went on into the time that the lunch buffet opened, and I thought for sure we should leave, since the buffet was expensive and the hotel might think we were trying to stay for a free lunch. At that point a waiter came to us with a tray. I thought he was going to ask us to leave, but when I looked at the tray, he was bringing us a tea service and served us graciously. I was deeply touched by this thoughtful act. My mind had gone into guilt about overstaying our welcome, but the waiter’s mind went to love and kindness. (This is very typical of the Japanese culture, which I appreciate so much.) If you would like to do an uplifting exercise to undo fear and guilt, try this: Take a piece of paper and write down everything you think is wrong about you and your life. List physical, relationship, financial, and spiritual issues, and anything else you can think of. Then hold the paper between your hands and pray sincerely. “Dear God, please let me be wrong about all of this.” Your prayer is answered instantly because all of your judgments about what is wrong are wrong. When you have an investment in being right about what is wrong, what is wrong stays wrong. When you have more of an investment about being right about what is right, what is right gets better. If your mind goes to guilt or what is wrong, please remember that when fear is ready to kick you out, love would serve you tea.
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